The Strength Heartbreak Brings

The first time we experience heartbreak it tears our world down. The feeling of investing so much time and energy into another person just for it to fail is gut wrenching. Most of us have our first heartbreaks in our late teens or early twenties. It’s always something that comes completely unexpected.

As for me, my first heartbreak happened at 15. I was a freshman in high school and I never thought nothing like this would happen to me and yet so soon. It was a tough year for me struggling with my feelings and decision making. Let me put it this way, the feeling is something we never forget, and also something we never want to feel again. This is an emotional trauma that can either build you or break you for relationships to come. It’s important to not let how someone else treats you define how you treat others to come, or even how you treat yourself. I definitely struggled with this when I was going through it. I often found myself trying to reach back into those situations because it's was what I was most familiar with and I didn't want things to change. It was also because I knew what I wanted and I kept reaching back in hopes that the person would come to their senses, but that only resulted in me getting hurt even more.

Many times, people only treat you poorly due to their own personal trauma. It’s not your fault. When you realize that, it can bring the type of strength in yourself you never expected. Getting your heartbroken can force you into focusing on your passions, working out more, eating healthier, and many other things you neglected in the relationship. It’s common in relationships to lose yourself. You become so wrapped up into another person that you make them your whole entire world. This is called codependency and can be extremely toxic. It’s so important for you to remember who you are apart from this person.

This is why when people are forced to be alone it’s easy for them to get back into their passions and self care. This is usually an amazing revelation for most people, but don’t continue the cycle! Keep your independence and individuality in and out of relationships. You can only truly count on yourself. You have strengths, talents, and abilities a lot of people could only dream that they had. Yes, it’s hard to see them after someone who was your whole entire heart crushes your world, but give it time. Time heals all wounds, and will slowly reveal to you what you are made of. You are stronger than you think.

The best ways to get over heartbreak is to delete everything on your phone that reminds you of them. Yes every picture, video, & text message. Delete them off of your social medias. Stop stalking their every move. It’s important that you write down the things that they’ve done to you that hurt you tremendously. This is to remind yourself of what they did and how they made you feel when you have moments of weakness and want to reach out to them.

Throw yourself into your work and passions. That project you meant to start months ago? That weight loss journey you wanted to get on a year ago? Do it. Now it's the best time to revert your attention toward more positive and uplifting things. The mind is a powerful weapon. Use it wisely, manifest your deepest desires. Make your dreams become your reality. There is great strength that comes out of heartbreak.